It’s scary. It hurts like hell. And, it can be better.

Disconnection, is a loud internal squick. Located somewhere in the top of the lists for: heaviest, most unpleasant feelings. The type that makes it hard to breathe.

You look at your child. She’s becoming a person. You are eager to be close. Both of you are. You know him so well, yet, it seems there is no right thing to say. Or ever the right time. There doesn’t seem to be a move that will open the door into her world.

You've tried and felt the burning sensation of being pushed away.
Ouch. That hurts.

You can't give up. You will not give up. It’s not a valid option when it comes to you and the incredible person you helped bring into this world. There is a family there. You know that.

There is a way to spiral into a loop of nurturing connection.

You might find a recipe in a guidance book. You can (and should!) hear others. And, it will never save you the work.

The work is hard, and is rewarding a million times more. There is love in unfolding the strength of your togetherness.

For connection to be built, we have to free our hands from what we are currently holding. We need to let go of unbased speculations, doubts and residue of pride. With the stories they tell your mind, the stories we learned by heart. We groomed paths of frustration and indifference, and following them sends us crashing into feeling powerless and tired over and over again. It is time to build new paths. For that, the ground will need time to heal. Your hearts will as well.

And, connection will grow again. Sprouting from fertile grounds, with colours of blossom and fragrance of joy. Rewarding your courage to not look away. To stay in the mud. To never let 'us' go.

Are you ready to build the ground? We can help. Take a supported and impactful first step here. You don't need to do it alone.

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